The other morning something happened that really made me upset at my husband. I didn't mention it because we were in the midst of the usual morning madness. Plus, I really didn't want to discuss the issue in front of Man-Child.
Apparently, Hubby picked up on the fact that I was upset (he does get points for that - because usually he's kinda dense in this area) because he called me at work after he dropped Man-Child off at school. I told him that yes I was upset - but that I couldn't talk about it then. I work in a cube farm - there is no way I'm about to have a personal conversation regarding the fact that at that very moment I was envisioning the various ways I could maim my husband when there are
Throughout the morning, the more I thought about it the more upset I found myself. I even threw in some other small issues that had been bothering me to stoke the fire.
Apparently, the fact that I was upset was really weighing on Hubby's mind - because he called back later in the morning to see if I wanted to have lunch (he gets extra points for taking it a step further to try and rectify the issue). By now, my feelings were running very high. I told him no. I figured that I surely didn't want to have lunch with this horrible, no good man in a public forum.
The more I stewed over this issue - the hotter I got. By the time I came home, I was spitting nails and ready to move out. IT WAS OVER! How DARE he treat me this way.
And you know what happened then? We talked about it. I discovered that he didn't do what I thought he had. He was an innocent bystander caught in the crossfire.
The problem? By now, I had worked myself into such a state that even though the "issue" was dead in the water - I was still angry.
I ended up going to bed early - hoping to sleep it off. It worked.
The moral of the story? Don't let the little things simmer - because eventually they will boil over.
We will have been married 20 years in January. How many more times/years will I have to repeat this little nugget of wisdom to myself before it finally sinks in?