August 28, 2012

Joy and Shame....all lumped together.

I received an email today - one of MANY to be sure, most of which lead me to tweet the following towards the end of the day....

Because, yeah, it was THAT kind of day.

But this particular email was from a friend/former co-worker.  Actually thinking about it, I don't think I've talked to her in QUITE some time (shame on me).

Apparently, her husband ran into mine today which prompted her to send an email asking me to send Hubby's resume to her; that she would be happy to pass it on to her HR manager.

I almost cried.

This voice from the past....upon realizing that we are in a pickle, held out her hand.  And that?

That meant the world to me.

Even though no promises were made, the very fact that she cared enough to try to help, in whatever way she can, touched my heart.

I asked Hubby about it when I got home (of course, I had already sent his resume along).  He said that he had seen her husband.  He also mentioned that he was embarrassed to tell him that he was still unemployed - particularly since the LAST time he'd seen the man was right after he'd been let go.

I knew exactly what he meant.

Although, I had a sneaky feeling back then, when Hubby broke the bad news, that we were in for a tough haul, I had NO idea that we would still be mired in this mess over two years later.  And I didn't know just how embarrassing it would be to tell people that after TWO LONG years he is still unemployed.

Every time I utter those words out loud now I feel ashamed.  I feel like people are thinking, "Well, what's wrong with him that he can't find a job?"

Even though I KNOW we aren't the only ones in this predicament.  Even though I KNOW he is looking as hard as he can.  Even though I KNOW that there isn't anything out there. Even though I KNOW that NONE of this is his fault......I still feel a bit of shame. I can only imagine how he feels.

But to be reminded that people do care....and that they are willing to help.....well, that leaves me (almost) speechless.


  1. Oh how I hope this is the open door that leads to a job. Your feelings...all sound perfectly normal to me.

  2. I'm keeping my fingers, toes and eyes crossed for you on this! Perhaps knowing someone will give him a leg up he wouldn't otherwise have. Hopinghopinghopinghoping...

  3. My brother in law was out of work for 1.5 years. My sister called me and said, "Well, we've hit a new low... he's applied for the Post Office."

    (Which of course is hysterical since Tony and I both work for the PO) So, I poked and prodded and eventually (the new hiring system sucks) after 6 months he was in the door. There was nothing wrong with him or his skills, but what was out there and what he needed to bring home, he needed a helping hand to get him there.

    So yeah. I get it.

  4. Gigi .. I feel for you it is of no comfort I know that this depression is wide spread across the west.. Greece is going to go.. Italy too.. Spain, Portugal and as for us in the UK.. I dread to think what will happen we are bust.. and until we actually go bust and stop kicking the can down the road nothing is ever going to get better.. Sending hugs.. I hope you got my email ;) xx

  5. It's so widespread Gigi and it's heartbreaking that so many people must feel like you do...

  6. I hope it leads to something. Fingers crossed!

  7. It's touching, how the little things mean so much when all you have are little things.

    Plug on, my friend.

    Oh, and Liza Bean Bitey, of the Minneapolis Biteys, sends her love -- and a sly little wink. No idea what that means...


  8. My brother-in-law jsut got a job after two years of being out of work!! IT happens- fingers crossed.