Just so you know, I am completely and totally aggravated with every single person in this house - with the exception of me.
We all know that I have been the one in charge of keeping up with the deadlines regarding school, college applications and whatever the hell else needs to be kept up with. And I have. And I've done a damn fine job of it too, if I do say so myself (which apparently I must, because no one else around here seems to appreciate all I do).
All I asked for today was two LITTLE things to be done. One thing from each of them. That's not asking too much, is it? Apparently, it is.
I asked Man-Child to follow up regarding the damn reference letters he needed because the deadline was TODAY. Those reference letters made the difference in whether or not he would be considered for a scholarship with one school. And, need I remind you, we could certainly use any and all scholarship money that we can get our grubby, little paws on?
I told him to email them to me immediately once he received them. He did not. Bye-bye possible scholarship money!
I asked Hubby to look for a suitable baby/toddler picture for the Senior Ad in the yearbook. This deadline is tomorrow - otherwise the price will jump significantly from the already not-so-insignificant price to an absolutely exorbitant price. I also informed him that the ones on the computer are NOT appropriate that he would need to look through the actual albums.
Did he? No, he did not. Bye-bye lower rate! And to be truthful? At this point in time I'm seriously considering not even buying the damn ad at all!
After he realized that I was upset - he sat down at the computer to find pictures...... CLEARLY he did not listen to me the first time around (see above). I told him to forget it.
I am so fed up with these two at this point. It seems like I am the only one who seems to give a damn whether or not these things get done!
I pointed out to Hubby earlier (before he neglected to do the ONE freaking thing I asked) that it would seem that I am the one applying for college since I seem to be the one doing it all.
At this stage in the game, I don't know why I expect anything different out of either one of them. They are both selfish and lazy. And, apparently, expect ME to be the one to get it all done. I know I've pulled it off time and time again. But now?
Now, I am overwhelmed, exhausted, trying to fight off a cold and all I ask is for a little bit of assistance and, occasionally some appreciation and I'm not getting it. And, did I mention that I am OVERWHELMED?
I have too much on my plate to deal with - physically, mentally and emotionally. I don't have the time or the patience to deal with their incompetence. Right now, life IS hard!
And, as I type, they are wondering why I am hiding away from them?!? Seriously?
It's because if I have to look at either one of them right now I will probably either start crying or screaming. Neither of which they want.
No, they want quiet, efficient me to just "fix" it. I'm tired of being the one who "fixes" and "does" - someone else needs to take over for a little while.
Because right now? Now, I just can't deal.
Hmmm.. maybe stop doing things for them and it'll make them realize how much you really do? It'll be hard, but perhaps if you'd like MC to more self-sufficient, letting him fail at some things will teach him that he does have to take responsibility for his own future.
ReplyDeleteDitto what Melissa said. Sometimes if you are pushing, you need to just stop. That will get their attention.
ReplyDeleteOnly when you stop doing it, will they realize what they have been taking for granted.
ReplyDeleteConsider yourself hugged!
ReplyDeleteI know this problem very well.
Our two kids (19 + 20) still believe that the world turns only for them, but that all tasks of a serious or important nature ... well, they just happen!
As if by magic, problems (theirs) are solved and afterwards they utter those words ... the words that are just begging to be answered by immediate eviction from the family home ...
"I told you it would be OK, didn't I!"
Sometimes I think I should have another blog to vent all of this stuff! It would make a great blog title!
ReplyDeleteOh poor you! I know exactly how you feel - I hate that feeling of trying to do everything and feeling like you're failing and that absolutely OVERWHELMING feeling of stress.
ReplyDeleteI agree with what everyone said. Stop doing it. But I also know how hard that is. I suspect that like me you prefer to be in control. (Notice I did not call either of us a control freak) Personally, I find it easier to just do things myself and know that they're done and done right. I have issues with stepping back and letting my kids make mistakes. It's hard for me. *sigh*
I'm sending you a big ol' hug. Go take a bubble bath and have some chocolate and/or a glass of wine. Ignore them.
I think Gigi's Bitchfest would make a fantastic blog title ;o)
ReplyDeleteGigi's Bitchfest would be AWESOME!!
ReplyDeleteI think, (and this is just my opinion here, I could be entirely wrong....) but maybe the fact that you do so much is why they do nothing??
I found out the hard way that by doing everything, (just to make sure it got done), ONLY succeeded in making sure that they did absolutely nothing for themselves.....sometimes you gotta let them suffer the consequences of their NON actions.
Having been in that exact same situation for years, I feel your pain. It would be easy to just step back and let them fail, except for the fact that it will end up costing you (not just them) more in the long run. Here's to hoping that our boys (husbands included) grow up to become responsible men. ;)
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