The past few days have been rough.
In the past few days, I've had to deal with death, divorce and car accidents.
It's too much for me to process at once.
So, of course, I will spill it here.
Friday we got the awful news that a co-worker had lost his wife unexpectedly.
His WIFE! The one he has been with FOREVER. The one he'd been with since college. The one that put him through law school. The one that (you could tell) he loved beyond all measure.
This one struck me the most as I have never known anyone to lose someone so close. Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, Parents....yeah, I've been there. But a SPOUSE?
This was a first (and please God - hopefully the last). We've all been in shock - which, apparently, we all deal with in our own way. Some of us gave the appearance of having no heart and others....well, let's just say they show themselves in their true light which some would call selfish and bitchy. The memorial service is Thursday and to tell the truth I am dreading it. I'm just at a total loss. And I figure if I'm at a loss, how must he be feeling?!?!?! And I just don't have the words in me to express my sorrow for him. I have truly been losing sleep over this news; because it's just so horrific and brings to mind of what the future could bring to this little family someday.
The divorce - well, I've mentioned it a time or two before. But it looks like (finally) she has accepted the inevitable; that there is no other out and that she will have to be the one to end all; once and for all. What galls me to no end is the way he is behaving. Seriously people. Be ticked off at your (ex)spouse; that is fine and even expected. But do NOT hide your head in the sand and ignore the needs of YOUR children in order to "show" your ex. That is not cool. AND? It will seriously hinder any friendship you might think you have with the friends. Because, yeah, when you act like THAT; people will take sides and it won't be yours; especially me. Me? Yeah, you might want to worry about what I will have to say to you should I see your sorry-ass again.
The car accident? Glad you asked. That is the least of my worries, for the moment. As you all know, Man-Child had his first accident not too long ago. Yesterday marked his second. The first accident - totally unavoidable. This one - not so much.
About a month ago our garage door broke...again (damn new house! Is it too much to expect everything to work properly in a [fairly] NEW house?). At this point in time, the garage door is the least of our worries so it hasn't been on our To-Do list.
So we've all been parking in the driveway and doing the car-shuffle to get out. So far it's been fine.
Yesterday, MC was heading out for a late weight-training. My car was parked behind his - which is unusual on Mondays as usually his training is on Tuesdays and early enough that I get home first. I'm sitting on the back porch perusing some blogs when I hear a loud *CRUNCH!!*
And I knew. I immediately knew.
I ran inside and toward the door and Hubby was headed out the door; thinking the worst. I knew he was thinking about the incredibly busy street at the end of our drive - but I was ahead of the game since I already had an idea of what had happened.
And sure enough....
Man-Child had hopped in the car and began to back out without a care in the world - because in his mind, I *should* have been parked in front of him - and slammed into my car.
Luckily, we were parked back-end to back-end. No serious damage; in fact you can't even tell that either car was hit.
When I came outside (in the spirit of trying to keep things light) I informed him that I wouldn't sue. Bless his heart, he was SO upset.
In my mind? I hope these "minor" accidents serve to remind him of just how mindful he needs to be while behind the wheel because it only takes a second for something to go wrong.
Now here is where I should end this post with something relevant, wise and deep. But all I can come up with is this:
1) Love the people in your life fiercely and tell them often.
2) Don't be afraid to take the hard stance to do what you have to do for your (and your children's) best interests.
3) Never - and I mean NEVER - let your children learn to drive - it will give you gray hair faster than you can imagine and will cause you to drink copious amounts of wine.