November 13, 2009

What would you do?

Okay - what would you do?

Your child leaves his phone unguarded in your vicinity.  Or he leaves his Facebook open.

Do you peek??

I do.  Why?

Because I soooo remember what it was like being a teenager (despite what he thinks).  And I want to know what is going on in his life.  It's not like he tells me everything.  What I do get out of him is generally pulled (word by word) out of him.

Is it un-ethical?? 

Maybe a little.  Maybe not.

I own the house he lives in.  I pay for his tuition.  I pay for his food, clothing; etc.

I have a right to know what is going on in his life.  Right?

Unless I see something extremely disturbing; I don't bring it up.  They are entitled to their little secrets.  But anything big?!!  Definitely gets my attention. far....nothing big.

So really?  What would you do?


  1. Gigi I am a regular visitor to my sons FB page when left open .. sorry but if he is low or hyper I like to know all is well. I try not to judge I never say anything .. I let him tell me if he wants to and funny but I get to know more about my kids seeing how they interact
    ( I have two boys I check them both LOL)
    I also think the internet can be dangerous so I like to see who they are chatting to xxx

  2. Oh I so DO check! unethical? maybe? invasion of privicy? absolutely! But I'd rather invade a little privacy and be on the ball. Of course the problem occurs when you find out something big. You're right, we don't sweat the small stuff. But when its big, you then have to say something, and then they know you've been checking on them. Trust me, I know, its happened.

  3. Nope- not unethical, it's a necessity. He is your child, your responsibility. End of story. Good luck, I don't have to worry about this for a few years- my kids are 6 and 3.